Emeritus Post 3: more angst?! :S

yo. third emeritus post. my emeritus posts are getting "relatively" regular eh? once every fortnight / month... wonder if this will continue for long. anyway, this post contains two sections... one, rather angsty. two, rather silly. but the bulk of it will be in part 1... u can consider this yet another angsty post then. geez, so far every single one of my emeritus posts have had quite a bit of angst haven't they? queer. queer indeed. Ah well. maybe i have people to share my joy with but use this medium to share my angst.

Part 1: Dilemma
I'm not sure if i've mentioned this before... but I have very little respect for people who cheat on their partners. If I were to meet someone new and know that he/she's a player (through reputation, etc), I would normally have a very bad impression of that person. It's just the way I am and I never really figured out why. Maybe it's because I was single for a very very very long time and could have been subconciously jealous of guys with many gfs... which would in turn make me really pissed if they didn't appreciate their relationships.

Whilst I have little respect for players... Ok ok, I understand that if the person only fools around with willing parties... at least no one's being hurt in the process since everyone in that equation made the matured decision to do so. In such a scenario, I normally disrespect the act, but I'm still perfectly alright with the person since he/she did not hurt anyone.

I draw the line when it comes to someone cheating behind their partner's back. That person would be lying to and hurting their partner... someone they claim to care for and love. That is something I cannot in any way at all condone. A common excuse of some of these guys is that they've stopped loving their current partner. If that is indeed the case, then end the current relationship before moving on to someone else. Some have even more elaborate excuses but the fact is if you want to end a relationship, you can, regardless of the situation. It's not an easy thing to do but it's gotta be done. By keeping on to the current relationship while looking for someone else, you're lying to your partner and probably lying to the new third party by confessing you love the new party when in actual fact you're not truly doing so by holding on to an old relationship.

Love is about caring and giving, by being selfish and holding onto the old relationship whilst enjoying the new one... you're neither giving nor caring. You're only receiving and taking. The best word that comes to mind describing such a person is probably a vulgur one.

I could continue this entire tirade on why I feel such an act to be despicable but I'm pretty certain I'm not alone in feeling the way I do about it. There would be little value in me repeating things you already know. Or at least I HOPE you know. ;)

The dilemma comes in when someone I know and call a friend is guilty of such an act. I was very surprised at the amount of such stuff going on when I entered SMU. I guess I was just a little to naivete in the field of relationships because of my rather nerdy nature. Since coming to SMU, I've been able to close one eye to friends who cheat. Normally, I only find out a person's a player after I've befriended him / her. By then, that other party would already have called me a friend and have treated me with nothing but respect, concern, and kindness as friends normally do one another. Because of that, I know it would be rude for me to judge a person who has treated me well based on one of the things they do... and I end up closing one eye to their philandering, hoping that they change their ways one day.

The biggest dilemma, however, (and this has happened to me more than once with different people) comes when a friend cheats on another friend of mine. Now this is a lot more painful for me to make any decision on. The cheater has treated me well and deserves no ill-will from me. Yet the person who was hurt by the cheater is someone I also care for and for me to treat the cheater well... that would in some way be betraying my loyalty to the person who was cheated. And I find myself torn between to opposing loyalties.

Of course, in the end, like most people do, I "side" (not really side, but rather, remain closer to) the person I'm more familiar. But if that person's the cheater... I end up feeling like I'm part of the whole she-bang... a she-bang which I vehemently detest (yes, I believe these strong words are justified).

Is there a solution to all this? Probably not. Some guys and girls will continue going on to hurt more people and all I can do is just watch and from time to time warn people I know away from known philanderers... ah well. At least through this post, I've made my stand clear on this issue. At least I can sleep better at night. By a bit.

Part 2: Some Silly Stuff

Here at SMU, we have lots of presentations. From time to time, a professor might hint that he or she would like some entertainment thrown in. Some groups do skits, others do videos, and some do really elaborate and creative things... all in the name of impressing the prof. This field, of course, is LARGELY reserved for freshmen who think they're oh so cool cos they know how to do dumb stuff. yes my impression of some freshmen i've met is largely that of unimpressed and sometimes I wonder how I could have been so dumb :S. (argh darren... be humble! stop thinking like that! you must be humble! -mediate.... hummmm......- you can do it!) I'm glad to say, however, that I've met freshmen too whom I feel have potential. We need more fellas like those people.

As SMU students go into their senior years they begin to realise the UNimportance of videos in the real world and grow to see them as mere gimmicks to keep the class awake or to have a simple laugh or two about. It was thus to my surprise that my strategy prof was looking for an entertainment factor... and my group... being a bunch of corny loser idiots (aside from doreen of course) decided to do something stupid for our presentation.

We did 3 video skits... each one introducing one of the strategies we discussed for Raffles Medical Group's health tourism revenue stream: Battle (Doreen acts as a Japanese tourist coming to Singapore because it's cheap), Brawn (I act as an Indonesian Chinese going to Penang because of its location), and Brains (Weiyang and Lester act as Mainland Chinese coming to Singapore for an operation they can't get elsewhere).

http://www.yourfilelink.com/get.php?fid=52911 Battle

http://www.yourfilelink.com/get.php?fid=52919 Brain

http://www.yourfilelink.com/get.php?fid=52928 Brawn

many thanks to say eng for allowing us to use his photo :)

These videos have, by far, the worst editing that I've ever done... simple because they didn't need any. It merely relied on a damn retarded script. Hopefully you'll enjoy them as much as the class did.

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